3 Things You Should Never Say In Bed

Sex is just as much about what you do as what you say. Since I’m a writer, I love words; and in this I’m not alone. Lots of us enjoy some flirty dirty talk pre or mid romp. Saying the right thing at the right time is a serious super charge to your lovemaking. But, and it’s a big but, saying the wrong thing, or even the right thing at the wrong time, can do a heck of a lot of damage.

If we were talking about good things to say in bed I could probably go on forever. But it’s not. The list of things of what NOT to say is thankfully much shorter. Here are my top three verbal bombs that must be avoided if you want satisfaction between the sheets.

Your ex-lover’s name

Even if you’re saying it in a “good” way, like, “Oh my god, you’re so much bigger/better/hotter than James was!” Nope. It’ll make any man cringe, even if you’re complimenting him.

Your partner doesn’t want to think he or she is the best you’ve ever had; they want to think they’re making you forget you’ve ever had sex with anyone else at all.

The everyday things in life

Yes, this one happens; usually by accident, and especially to couples who have been together for a little while. You can get so comfortable that sex feels like just another part of your day together and your mind can wander. Before you know it, you’re in the thick of it and it pops into your head to ask your sweetie if they picked up the dry cleaning. Or you want to remind them to hurry so you can get to work.

No! Please, babies, don’t do this. I don’t call that comfortable, I call it boring. If your sex life has gotten to the point where you’re thinking about mundane stuff in the heat of the moment, maybe you need to focus some energy on restarting that fire. Because actually talking about that stuff during sex is a surefire way to squash any spark that’s still there.

Hurry up!

Excuse me?? Are you serious?? Ladies, men spend an awful lot of effort taking their time to make things right. “Aren’t you finished yet?” is guaranteed to throw your love making longevity out the window. Sure, there are going to be times when the action isn’t up to par and you just want it to be over.

But never, ever, say so. Whether you’re a man or a woman, hearing “are you done yet?” is an ego destroying mood killer. Instead, give some sexy praise to what they’re doing right and suggestions on changing what he or she is doing wrong. Put in some real work instead of taking the easy way out; you’ll both end up winners.

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